Rita Hursh, L.P.C.
Offers counseling to individuals and couples at:
14143 Robert Paris Court
Chantilly, VA 20151
Office Hours By Appointment
Some insurances accepted
We do not see things
as they are.
We see them as we are.
It is a sad mistake to regard life as a bore which must be endured, with
all its hardships….The life force in your body is the key to the freedom you seek.
The Door of Everything
, Ruby Nelson
||Marguerite “Rita” Hursh
Marguerite Hursh, better known as Rita, earned a masters’ degree
in the Agency Counseling Program at George Mason University
and is a Licensed Professional Counselor in the state of Virginia.
a member of American Counseling Association (ACA)
and Northern Virginia Licensed Professional Counselors (NVLPC).
Rita integrates her wide base of theoretical knowledge with her
respect for a client’s personal belief system to facilitate
healing and growth. Changes can be achieved through gentleness,
empathy, and a strong, positive relationship. Rita assists
clients in becoming
aware of their own power, which is then focused on developing
Living a satisfying, balanced life is important to all of us. As we strive to improve ourselves in our professional and personal relationships, occasionally we encounter situations which cause us concern. Sometimes our lives are impacted by changes outside of our control. Counseling understands that all of us, at times, need help in readjusting to regain balance in our lives.
The purpose of counseling is to help people learn to make better choices for themselves. Through the creation of a respectful, caring relationship between counselor and client, troublesome life situations can be addressed in a positive way. Rita assists clients in expressing their concerns, identifying their strengths, and exploring alternative ways of handling situations or solving problems. These newly acquired skills and insights can fortify a person for life’s future challenges. Counseling is a positive step taken to regain balance and control in life.
Maintaining balance in a couple relationship can sometimes be tricky. Relationships need attention and nurturing to be successful. Both partners are responsible for creating happiness in the relationship.
Couple relationships give us a perfect opportunity to learn about ourselves. Our partners are like mirrors, reflecting our attributes and our faults. Many relationships fail because at least one partner is blind to how s/he is contributing to the continual arguing.
In my work with couples, I strive to help each person learn about themselves and their partner. It is amazing how we all play out behavior patterns in our lives without being fully aware that we are doing so.
My goal is to help couples learn to work together as a team instead of arguing and fighting. To achieve this, I use personality assessments, checklists, family maps, and observation to identify personality traits, communication styles, and patterns of behavior that are interfering with the healthy functioning of the relationship. Together we look at similarities and differences between partners. At times, the areas of difference can be troublesome, because we tend to think our ways of being and doing are the “right” or “best” way.
By learning to become aware of each other’s areas of sensitivity, practice active listening, and attempt to complement (compliments work too) each other, couples can become a team and putting an end to power struggles and arguing.
FIFTEEN THINGS YOU CAN DO TO NOURISH YOUR COUPLE RELATIONSHIP
- Nourish yourself – This one is extremely important!
- Invite your partner out for a date.
- Leave a “Thank You” note where your partner
will find it.
- Call just to say you love her/him.
- Never go to bed angry.
- Go dancing.
- Spend time together in nature.
- Hold hands.
- Make a point to tell your partner every day three
things for which you are grateful to her/him.
- Listen to beautiful music together.
- Share a banana split.
- Kiss “hello” and “goodbye.”
- Read a book to each other.
- Together volunteer your time to help those less fortunate.
- Plan a surprise weekend away for just the two of
HOW TO TELL WHEN YOUR COUPLE RELATIONSHIP IS IN TROUBLE
- When you and your partner never talk any more.
- When arguments are not resolved.
- When you no longer laugh together.
- When your needs and wants get lost in the relationship.
- When you no longer do things together.
- When a kiss feels more obligatory than desirable.
- When you no longer eat dinners together.
- When you depend too much upon your partner for your happiness.
- When you feel like roommates sharing a house together instead of lovers sharing your lives.
- When one partner consistently nurtures more.
- When you feel depressed by how impossible it seems to find a quiet moment with your partner.
- When you always fight or never fight.
- When there are no more romantic surprises in your relationship.
- When you have trouble taking help from your partner.